Be fabulous start a kindness wave and beat stress

Be kind on National Stress Awareness Day

SO today 6^th November is national stress awareness day.  Are you aware of your stress?  Are you thinking about it, worrying about it and focusing on it?  STOP ! 

I understand the need to highlight the difficulties that stress creates in our life, I know the impact it can have on your physical, mental and emotional wellbeing.  But focusing on the problem creates more of the problem.  What would you like instead of the stress?

What can you do today to shift your thinking, to change how you feel and move towards a happier and more positive life?  Breathe – take some time out and imagine what the difference your life would be like if you felt happier and more positive?  What if you could change how you feel now?

You can – your circumstances are not controllers of you.  You are the controller of you.  You have a choice about what you think and how you react to any situation.  If you choose to focus your thoughts on feeling good for even a few minutes you will feel less stressed.

The quickest way to feel good is to do something for someone else.  Be kind and help another person. It can be the smallest of things – smile, hold a door open, make someone a cup of tea, say hello, there are an infinite number of ways to be kind.  Go on give it a try for today see how many people you can be kind to and then notice what a difference it makes to how you feel.

Your acts of kindness create ripples and you will have a bigger impact that you may ever know.  Go on de stress, be fabulous start a kindness wave today.

My Inspiration behind Scotlands Happiness Day

Tragically, in October 2007, just a few weeks short of his 13^th birthday,  my son Calum lost his life to meningitis.

The impact of Calum’s death shook me to my very core. The grief, depression, panic and anxiety were overwhelming.  I questioned so many of my values trying to make sense of what had happened, but I vowed that I would be happy again, that our family would survive this tragedy. I wanted Calum to be proud of us and to recognise us as the family he knew if he could see us.

It has taken time, energy, the kindness of others and a focus for happiness to go from the darkness of grief to Scotland's Happiness Day.  A journey I have now shared in my book From Heartbreak to Happiness  which is launched in paperback on Scotland's Happiness Day 2 November 2013. 

We had World Happy Day in February 2012. It started me thinking – Scotland should have its own happiness day. So Scotland’s Happiness Day was born on 11^th November 2012. 

This is our second year, it’s on Saturday 2^nd November and we have gone even bigger. With Smile Awards program to thank the happy and positive people in our lives who help us to smile. A fab conference with excellent speakers, laughter, comedy and music which is a great day out where people can learn about creating more happiness for themselves and then share their happiness with others.

I am encouraging the country to get involved beyond our conference – to take a day to focus on your own happiness and to share it with others. (www.scotlandshappinessday.com)

Find your reason to focus on happiness, small steps work.  

Shifting your focus to happiness

There are so many reasons to be miserable - the weather, worries about money, jobs, family.  What you focus on produces your thoughts and how you feel.  If you need a break from feeling low, being worried and anxious then it's time to shift your focus. 

Come and join me on Saturday this week (2nd Nov) and focus on happiness just for a day.  Be in the company of other people who want to feel happy.  Laugh, chat with others, enjoy learning something new, be entertained and energised.   See what a difference it can make to your life.

I know that it won't change your circumstances, but it will help you feel better, feel lighter and happier.  When you feel better - you cope with life differently.  You see solutions. You have energy to do things.  You can take action. 
If you want life to be happier then make one step.  Come and enjoy Scotlands Happiness Day conference with me. 

I created Scotland's Happiness Day to be a day where our energy and focus is on feeling good, sharing that with others and thanking the positive people in our lives.   What could it do for you, your family and your friends? What could this do to Scotland?
I know what a difference it has made to my life. 

If you can't join me there then do something that will boost your happiness and those around you.  For one day put your focus on happiness,  explore what makes you happy. You may get a surprise.  Kim x

How to stay happy as the weather changes ..

Can the weather affect your mood? 

Many studies and people I know say yes. SAD (seasonally affected disorder) has been recognised by the NHS in the UK, many people say that they experience lower energy, are less sociable, crave carbohydrates, sleep longer and have reduced sex drive. I wonder how many seasons we have in a year as this could describe several friends at least once a month!
But there are also some people who don't like summer and who were really grumpy when the sun shone this year.  Some folks don't like the rain and avoid it all costs.  Don't get me started on what the wind does to us, and not only after too many baked beans!
All sorts of weather can affect us but as Billy Connolly once said " In Scotland, there is no such thing as bad weather - only the wrong clothes."  So what can you do apart from buy yourself a warm coat and some new wellies?

• I recognise that during the dark winter nights it can be more of an effort to go out and be sociable. Spending time with friends is one thing that happy people do so it is worth making the effort to stay connected.  How about planning ahead? Make plans with your friends to meet up once a week, even in each others houses then at least one of you gets to stay home.
• Join a club or class and have some fun learning new skills - the Happiness Club is a great example.
• Adding some physical activity into the mix can boost your mood - doesn't have to be the gym, try dancing or walking. Join a group and you can add extra social time too.
• Laugh more.  Make a choice to look for the funny side in life.  Watch funny programs, films and even read some silly joke books.  Anything to get you chuckling. You could try laughter yoga check out Joyworks who will be at the Happiness Day conference.
• Make time for play. Games, play doh, hobbies and get up to some mischief. It's not just for kids all the happiest people I know enjoy some mischief I reckon it keeps you young.

You can't control the weather so control what you can - make a decision now that you are going to do what you can to feel happier.